Are you the kind of girl who thinks she’s met true love only to discover after a short time that he’s actually Mr. Wrong? Do you have trouble deciding whether what you’re feeling is true love or just an infatuation? Would you like to learn how to tell the difference so you can stop wasting your time on dead-end romances? If you find yourself wondering why things start off so well that you’re certain it’s got to be true love, only to be disappointed time and again, maybe you need to check your love meter and get things on the right track.
The Difference Between True Love & Infatuation
It can be confusing to tell the difference between true love and infatuation because they can both have the same effect on you when you’re in the first bloom of a relationship. You are totally attracted to him. Your heart beats faster and you feel all warm inside when you think about him. His kiss turns you on and makes you want to be with him even more. It’s pretty normal to experience these feelings at first whether it’s love or not.
The difference comes when you get past the chemistry and see what’s underneath. If things begin to look a little less bright and shiny, your love meter might be trying to send you a warning message. You need to learn to listen to these messages because you know in the pit of your stomach and the back of your mind when things are right and when they’re not right.
The Signs Matter: Identifying True Love
Up until now, the problem has been that you’ve ignored these memos from yourself. You need to stop ignoring them because if you don’t, the only person you’re fooling is yourself. Have you ever found yourself trying to convince your best friend that this new man in your life is the right one? Of course, you know it’s not really your friend, who needs convincing, don’t you?
Know Your Feelings
Okay, so let’s say that he makes the first cut and you’re feeling hopeful that this could be “the one.” Before you lock up your heart and throw away the key, you need to take things to the next level and actually get to know him enough to see if you’re compatible. Don’t take this too lightly because if you plan on spending your life with someone, you better share a lot of the same values and goals. Otherwise, at least one of you is not going to be very happy.
For instance, if you want a settled life and he doesn’t, your relationship is heading for rocky times. That’s why it’s so important to take the time to get to know each other. Don’t get into it until you know him. Even real love won’t outlast some obstacles. No two feelings are the same. So it is true with love and infatuation. Even more surprising is that infatuation can exist without true love. But real love is so much more than simple attraction. Give yourself some time and hear what your heart says.